Comments on: Don’t Call That Man! Tips on How to Keep Him AND Your Sanity

By: Tiphani

Tiphani — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 19:04:12 +0000

Stephanie,

You can see being in a long term relationship with him, but he doesn’t see the same…hence the reason why you’re not in a long term relationship. You are officially the girlfriend to a very single man and if that’s not what you were aiming for, then it’s time for you to leave.

The goal is to have a man whose actions AND words line up with what YOU want…a committed relationship.

So I advise you to STAY if you’re comfy with the fact that he doesn’t want what you want or LEAVE because you want a LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP.

The choice is yours.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 18:22:03 +0000

Hey Tiph…..I am sitting here looking for advice. So I have this guy friend, whom I can see us together in a long term relationship. Problem is, I think he is moving too slow, and I’m feeling like I may be put in the “friends with benefits” pile. If you know what I mean. It’s almost like we are dating, but don’t have to answer to each other, but remain respectful. In the beginning (5 months ago) he told me that he was not looking to get in a deep relationship because he was a recent divorcee, but his actions have always said differently (calling all day, dates every weekend, overnight stays during the week). My girlfriend suggested that it is time to shit or get off the pot. What do you suggest my next move be? I’m stumped…….

By: Noah Malich

Noah Malich — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 06:49:06 +0000

Just a smiling visitor here to share the love (:, btw outstanding style .

By: Kita

Kita — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 07:13:03 +0000

This was a wonderful read. We are over here CRACKING UP. The points you make are so funny but so true. I swear I have caught myself as the PHONE STALKER KILLER Lady at times. LOLOLOLOLOL Chakara put me onto your site. I really like it. Keep up the AWESOME work!!

By: Chakara

Chakara — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 03:49:16 +0000

girl i am rolling on the floor laughing right now
i felt like i’ve been SLAPPED in the face repetitively…like Larry,Curly,and Moe slapped.

I absolutely LOVE this. Ring the alarm the relationship guru has spoken. Brilliant! Well put.

XoXo

By: Tiphani

Tiphani — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 00:20:38 +0000

Always J-
1. This post was for women who call men too much at the dating stage of a relationship not for chicks who want to “play” the man so that she could raise her self esteem.

2. There are PLENTY of men that have A LOT to offer that chase a particular woman that he’s interested in. Thats been going on since the beginning of time.

3. Did you just really equate “so many black women” with not having a man because they want to be chased?

Women deserved to be pursued and whatever MAN feels otherwise, no matter what race he dates, is a #LoSER! #nUFFsaid

By: Alwayz J

Alwayz J — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:45:15 +0000

This was definitely a good read. But I disagree with some of what you wrote. Black males do not like to excessively chase black females. We don’d mind “pursuing” you a little but that is completely different than us calling you several times in a week and you not answering the phone. I have never called a girl more than a few times when she didn’t answer. If I don’t answer or call a girl back after she has called me several times, I don’t want to be chased. I want to be left alone! So if you don’t answer the phone or call me back I’m going to think the same thing, NOT that you just want me and several other dudes to chase after you boosting your self-esteem while lowering mine more and more. The ONLY dudes who will continue to chase a female are the ones who don’t have shyt to offer. Any guy thats successful in life will considerate it your loss and move on, especially if you seemed underaccomplished from the getgo. I have noticed this attitude of “chase me chase me” from black women but not with white women. This could be why so many black women have no man at all or don’t have a man that has a house, good credit, no criminal history, no kids, etc etc. Why would I chase an average looking female? I wouldn’t!

By: Pamela LeMay

Pamela LeMay — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:12:40 +0000

Tiph…Tiph…Tiph…this is well written and should be shared with all women. I too have been that psycho caller (maybe about 5 years ago) and it is to easy to fall into these habits.

I wish I had a friend to give me some “real talk” advise when I was dealing with this.

Thank you for your honesty…we women needed this!

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By: Stephanie Estephane

Stephanie Estephane — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:18:19 +0000

This article really opened my eyes to the word “relationship” because this word can be misused, especially if you’ve been kicking it with a guy for a couple of years and you may feel like you in a relationship but the truth is you really isn’t. When the truth comes out that he’s dating someone else and he doesn’t want to see you anymore, reality hits but thats a trap females fall into all the time. But I like THE DO NOT CALL HIM, let him chase you. I do that and it works. Everything you said in the post is true. Thanks, Tiphani!