Take a moment and think about how you want to feel in your personal and business life. Today’s video is going to teach you how to get clear on your desired feelings and how to be happy!

Write down your desired feelings and list 3 things that you’ll do this week to feel that way.

P.S. I got this technique from a GREAT digital program for entrepreneurs called, The Spark Kit, by Danielle Laporte.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiphani

Have you always wanted to start a business, but can’t quite figure out what you want to do? In today’s video, I’m going to share 3 creative ways to come up with an idea so that you can get started!

If you found this video useful, please share it with someone who would LOVE to start their own business!

P.S. I got this technique from a GREAT digital program for entrepreneurs called, The Spark Kit, by Danielle Laporte.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiphani

I wanted it bad enough to quit college and become a student in the school of the hard knocks, graduating at the top of my class.

I wanted it bad enough to sell my poetry book titled, Hate Me Bitch!, from behind a bar where I hustled tips and mixed drinks.

I wanted it bad enough to sell my fiction books in 1,000 degree North Carolina heat to anyone that had eyeballs (and a twenty dollar bill).

I wanted it bad enough to break up with some friends (and even a few family members) who weighed me down with their disbelief and silent insecurities of being “left behind.”

I wanted it bad enough that I believed in myself by shining my own light as bright as I could on even the darkest days.

I wanted it bad enough to speak it before it ever existed.

I wanted it so bad that failure was not an option.

I wanted it bad enough that people conspired on my behalf to see that it was done. Because they believed in my vision just as hard as I did.

I wanted it so bad that I became my own cheerleader when the whole team picked up and left.

I wanted it bad enough to show my face to the world even when I’d been humiliated and betrayed. Because they couldn’t kill me. And I needed them to know that.

I wanted it bad enough to get back up again after I had fallen. And couldn’t get up.

I wanted it bad enough to pray. A million times a day. Even after I’d crept into the forbidden garden and eaten the apple.

I wanted it bad enough to forgive. And then let go.

My question to you is:

How bad do you want it?

Whenever a New Year pops up (often out of nowhere), do you wonder where the time went? Do you ever wonder why your past is so similar to your right now and why everything seems to be…the same?

 Against your will.

 Against your sanity.

 Against your better judgement.

 Have you ever yearned for life to give you a “do over” that you know could never quite be “done over?”

 And then the New Year (with all its bullshit resolutions) comes to you in a vision, riding on a white horse with promises to save you from all the mistakes you made in your past.

 The past you created.

 The past that’s not likely to change unless you change your mindset.

 A mindset you’re most likely in denial about, leaving you in the horrible position of blaming everyone except for yourself for the untimely demise of your dreams.

SO TIPHANI, WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?

I’m all about defying the odds. Doing what “they” said couldn’t be done. Doing what “they” laughed at you for dreaming about. I’m all about doing what everyone else deemed impossible.

So, fuck a resolution. You kinda NEVER stick to them anyway and if you were REALLY serious about changing something important in your life, you’d start TODAY.

Fuck waiting for the right time. Because the time to pursue your dreams will NEVER be right and procrastination is only a sign of how unworthy you believe you are.

Fuck that lame ass bullshit excuse for not having enough money to start your business. Cause you somehow found a way to buy all the other POINTLESS items in Target that you thought you couldn’t afford. And yes…that crap adds up!

All those excuses boil down to the fact that you’re afraid.

It boils down to the fact that fear has wrapped her pretty little fingers around your neck and is squeezing the life out of you, but my question to you is…what are you afraid of?

What is it about your dream that scares you to the point of inaction?

Plenty of people aren’t going to like your shit (i.e new business venture or change of any kind thats positive). Well, more than half won’t. They will always have something to say about you, but the fact is that you will never reach your level of awesomeness as long as you continue to ride the ‘I Give A Fuck What Everyone Thinks Of Me” wave.

Listen, I can sit here and talk until I’m blue in the face, telling you how capable I think you are, how you have everything you need to start right now, or that you’re a fucking genius, but until you believe those things yourself…you will always fail. Miserably.

So my advice to you is: Put your big girl panties on (the VERY expensive ones), tell fear to fuck all the way off and show the world what you got…in that order.

And do know that when YOU rise to the occasion, God will intervene and take over (because that’s how He rolls).

Side Note: Me and Jesus are aware of my potty mouth. I curse like a pretty little sailor and yet strangely…He still loves me!

Another Side Note: I’m working on the potty mouth.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiph

If you’ve always wanted to become an entrepreneur and haven’t started yet…this video is for you.

If you already have your own business and your fear keeps you from taking it to the next level…this video is for you.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiphani

I just got back from Rich, Happy, & Hot LIVE, which is a 2.5 day entrepreneurship workshop at Donna Karen’s Urban Zen Center in West Village, NYC. There were over 300 brillant women (and few men) that I had the honor to share space and genius ideas with!

I made a list of the speakers and a little about what I learned from them. To get the full list click here.

Marie Forleo (@marieforleo), Founder of The Rich, Happy, & Hot Series

If it pops up in her head…she does it!

Marie is my mentor. She’s kind. Fearless. And absolutely beautiful both inside and out.

If you want to know how I fell in loooooVe with her, click here.

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 Kris Carr, (@kris_carr) New York Times Bestselling Author and Director of Crazy, Sexy, Cancer: a documentary chronicling her journey of being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer at the age of 30.

(Oh yeah…she’s been on Oprah, drank green juice with Dr. Oz in the comfort of her home and just debut her docuseries on OWN last week, right before celebrating her 40^th bday. A number they said that she’d never see).

I got a chance to chat with her about my eating habits (confessing my 5 times a week steak and coca cola diet) and she verbally kicked my butt, changed my diet, and had me drinking green juice for the first time in my life!

From that day forward I learned how to be the CEO of ME! Check out her site: CrazySexyCancer.com.

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Julie Cottineau (@jcottin), Vice President of Brand at Virgin

“Always ask yourself how you can go outside the box and make it fun?” – J. Cottineau

She gave us the secrets and tips that she used to build million dollar results for her boss. Priceless.

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Ramit Sethi (@ramit), New York Times Bestselling Author of, I Will Teach You To Be Rich and Creator of the Top Ranked Wealth Creation Blog, IWillTeachYouToBeRich.com

He’s funny.

He’s cute.

He’s slightly abusive with his advice and GREAT with money.

But his secret is in his study of social influence and persuasion. I was impressed. And I will tell you the same thing I told him personally… He is the shit!

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Danielle LaPorte, (@daniellelaporte), Creator of WhiteHotTruth.com

She’s the fairy godmother I’ve always wanted. There’s really no other way to describe her. Her program, The Spark Kit: a digital experience for entrepreneurs, has taken my business and personal life to a whole other level. I suggested you click HERE to get that NOW!

I also had the HONOR to be a part of her newest project called: Your Big Beautiful Book Plan

She just retired from her 1-on-1 coaching sessions where she has worked with over 700 people. The cost: $1000 an hour. Yes…she is that good!

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Russel Simmons (@unclerush), Def Jam, Phat Farm, Rockstar Philanthropist

He taught us how to operate out of a place of abundance. To give. And to meditate.

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Josh Pais (@joshpais), Founder of Committed Impulse

Scared to walk into your calling and speak in front of an audience of thousands? You won’t be after taking this workshop! It was POWERFUL to say the least!

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Regena Thomashauer, (@mamagena), Founder of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts

She got carried on stage by 2 men. Kissed them both in the mouth. And went on to teach us how to build multi-million dollar empires and how to live beyond our WILDEST dreams by putting ourselves before anyone else.

She is truly, “The Queen of Pussy!”

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Simon Sinek, (@simonsinek), TEDX Speaker, Author

I had never heard of him before. And I will never forget who he is. During out break, Simon and I had a very profound yet simple conversation in which he broke down my business and built it back up within a matter of 10 minutes. And then he gave me a hug and told me how powerful I was.

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Laura Roeder (@lkr), Founder of LauraRoeder.com

She’s a social media marketing genius. Literally.

I fell in love with her when I took Rich, Happy, and Hot Business School and learned SO much in her Creating Fame workshop!

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Derek Halpern (@derekhalpern), Founder of SocialTriggers.com

When a marketing expert works “behind the scenes” of several popular blogs, one of which attracts more than 1 million views a day…you listen.

I did.

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Rachel Goldstein (@rachgoldstein), Founder of Agent of Change

She is responsible for producing this RIDICULOUSLY insane event. Her spirit is incredible and she throws THE HELL out of an event!

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TAKE ACTION NOW!

Go hop on the waiting list for 2012 Rich, Happy, & Hot LIVE event. Believe me…your heart (and your business) will thank you for it!

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xoxooooooooooooooooxo.

Tiphani

I was in my early twenties and ready to make a MAJOR life move.

One of those monumental decisions that meant the success (or demise) of my future (yes…it was THAT serious). Although it was a big step, I felt confident with my plans even though I was ONLY moving off of faith.

But as sure as I was, I wasn’t sure enough, so I called a few people whose advice I respected and asked them for theirs.

And they gave it to me.

I listened intently as their words of doubt, cynicism, fear, unbelief, and insecurity (mixed with good intentions) seeped under my skin and floated through my mind, making me second guess everything I was once so sure of.

And then “they” said it. All of them. They uttered the words that snapped me back into reality:

“But what will everyone think?”

Those were the words I needed to hear.

Those were the words that reminded me that…

I REALLY DIDN’T GIVE A F@#$ ABOUT WHAT ANYONE ELSE THOUGHT! 

In my earlier days I wasn’t a big fan of people because their opinions (no matter how insignificant) ALWAYS seemed to affect me in some way, even stunting my growth.

Because what they thought of me mattered.

More than what I thought of myself.

Do you find yourself questioning every move you make in life, fearing that you’ll get criticized and ridiculed in the event that you fail? Do you hold back on “crazy ideas” and “unrealistic dreams” for fear that you’ll be laughed at for even thinking up something so innovative and big?

The truth is that you’re going to be laughed and pointed at, talked about, and judged by a pack of insecure people anyway.

When I decided to have my daughter and became a teenage mom…they judged me.

When I decided to quit college and pursue my writing career (passing on becoming a nurse or a teacher)…they criticized me.

I spent a lot of time trying to figure out where all the hate was coming from and I soon realized that some people were threatened by my potential. They wanted me to get a “real job” so that the success of my dreams turned to reality wouldn’t slap them in the face with the truth:

That their life SUCKED.

That they were doomed to a life of mediocrity.

That they weren’t cool enough to MAKE anything different happen in their own lives (thus being stuck with themselves FOREVER).

So I stopped asking people what they thought and put them in their place if they offered unsolicited advice, because I made the DECISION to just do me, no matter how anyone else felt!

Are you curious about how to REALLY not give a F@#$ about what anyone thinks about you? I have five tips that’ll get you going in the right direction:

#1 Know when you’re right. Release the urge to prove it
Let go of the fantasy of getting approval from your family and/or friends.
Let go of the urge to make them understand your vision because if it’s big enough and worth anything, they won’t understand it anyway. They’re going to talk about you behind your back and on social networking sites, but who cares? If you’re going to let that stop you, just quit while you’re ahead because it seems as though you ain’t really #BoutThisLife

#2 Stop asking for everyone’s opinion, especially when they’re as stupid as you
You are the sum total of the people you hang out with, which means that your current crew hasn’t elevated their mind set to where you are. Their thinking is small and not equipped to help you. Their opinion…is a NM Factor!

#3 Don’t take anything personally
WHEN (not “if,” cause it’s inevitable) someone says something on Facebook and/or Twitter (that they CLEARLY won’t say to your face), don’t get mad! What they say IS NOT about you. It’s an inner struggle regarding how they feel about themselves. Never respond to it.
Pray for them and then let them dig their own grave of low self esteem while you GO HARDER in whatever it is that pissed them off enough that they had to take time out of their VERY busy lives to comment on little ol’ you.

#4 Mediocrity is attainable. Strive for unrealistic
To be in the business of not giving a F@#$, you have to grow thick skin. Why? Because if you haven’t built up your confidence muscle, people’s words and opinions about you will rip you apart. One way to build that muscle is to strive for unrealistic goals. I’m talking about dreams so big that you’ll be outside of your comfort zone and guaranteed to be laughed at. Believe me, the mere fact that you coughed up enough balls to make your life a success will only make them wallow in their own self pity with the fact that they couldn’t grow a pair.

#5 Average people love being average because no one bothers them
Really, need I say anymore?

You can’t care about the opinions of others enough to ask if your dreams are a good idea, because they are.

And they will never think so.

Trust your gut and do what you want to do because your mind is at peace and your heart knows that it’s right. And if all else fails just remember:

They talked about Jesus and he CLEARLY could’ve cared LESS.

Because I want you believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiph

And as always, I’d LOVE to know what you think. Leave a comment below.

I have A. D. D. (Attention Deficit Disorder), graduated high school with a 1.7 gpa and spent a few years in college only to receive a 0.0 gpa on my transcript. The odds were against me from the very beginning and yet I managed to hit Essence Magazine best sellers list SEVEN times!

In this video, I’m going to answer some of the top questions I get asked as it relates to my journey from self-publishing my poetry to landing a publishing deal that got my books in bookstores nationwide.

If you have more questions that I didn’t answer, leave them in the comments below and as always, thanks for reading and watching:)

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiphani

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” -Jim Rohn

Have you ever found yourself trying to hold on to a friendship that was only meant to be for a season? Is there a nagging feeling that the friend you’re trying to DRAG along into the new vision in YOUR life is meant to be left behind? Friends are the glue that hold everything together, but what if superglue couldn’t even make you stick?

Today is the day that you’re going to get rid of some dead weight in your life.

Yup, that’s right.

Today you’re going to break up with the people in your life that don’t align with your new vision.

You become the friends that you hang out with and the odds are that they’ll suck you into their mediocre lifestyle before you’re able to change them. So start surrounding yourself with positive successful people who uplift, encourage, and applaud you for going after your dreams and obtaining some victories!!!

The fact is, if you’re not growing together, you’re growing apart. Most friendships aren’t meant to last forever and this video is confirmation for what you already know.

That it’s time to let go.

Not sure who you need to cut loose? Make a list of the people your closest to. Put a minus sign next to the negative and toxic people that make you feel bad, drain you, and lead to stress/drama and put a positive sign next to people who are loyal, honest, supportive, make you feel energized and at peace.

Break up with the minuses TODAY! Release yourself from their negative influences.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiphani + Baby Bear

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