Take a moment and think about how you want to feel in your personal and business life. Today’s video is going to teach you how to get clear on your desired feelings and how to be happy!

Write down your desired feelings and list 3 things that you’ll do this week to feel that way.

P.S. I got this technique from a GREAT digital program for entrepreneurs called, The Spark Kit, by Danielle Laporte.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiphani

Whenever a New Year pops up (often out of nowhere), do you wonder where the time went? Do you ever wonder why your past is so similar to your right now and why everything seems to be…the same?

 Against your will.

 Against your sanity.

 Against your better judgement.

 Have you ever yearned for life to give you a “do over” that you know could never quite be “done over?”

 And then the New Year (with all its bullshit resolutions) comes to you in a vision, riding on a white horse with promises to save you from all the mistakes you made in your past.

 The past you created.

 The past that’s not likely to change unless you change your mindset.

 A mindset you’re most likely in denial about, leaving you in the horrible position of blaming everyone except for yourself for the untimely demise of your dreams.

SO TIPHANI, WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?

I’m all about defying the odds. Doing what “they” said couldn’t be done. Doing what “they” laughed at you for dreaming about. I’m all about doing what everyone else deemed impossible.

So, fuck a resolution. You kinda NEVER stick to them anyway and if you were REALLY serious about changing something important in your life, you’d start TODAY.

Fuck waiting for the right time. Because the time to pursue your dreams will NEVER be right and procrastination is only a sign of how unworthy you believe you are.

Fuck that lame ass bullshit excuse for not having enough money to start your business. Cause you somehow found a way to buy all the other POINTLESS items in Target that you thought you couldn’t afford. And yes…that crap adds up!

All those excuses boil down to the fact that you’re afraid.

It boils down to the fact that fear has wrapped her pretty little fingers around your neck and is squeezing the life out of you, but my question to you is…what are you afraid of?

What is it about your dream that scares you to the point of inaction?

Plenty of people aren’t going to like your shit (i.e new business venture or change of any kind thats positive). Well, more than half won’t. They will always have something to say about you, but the fact is that you will never reach your level of awesomeness as long as you continue to ride the ‘I Give A Fuck What Everyone Thinks Of Me” wave.

Listen, I can sit here and talk until I’m blue in the face, telling you how capable I think you are, how you have everything you need to start right now, or that you’re a fucking genius, but until you believe those things yourself…you will always fail. Miserably.

So my advice to you is: Put your big girl panties on (the VERY expensive ones), tell fear to fuck all the way off and show the world what you got…in that order.

And do know that when YOU rise to the occasion, God will intervene and take over (because that’s how He rolls).

Side Note: Me and Jesus are aware of my potty mouth. I curse like a pretty little sailor and yet strangely…He still loves me!

Another Side Note: I’m working on the potty mouth.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiph

If you’ve always wanted to become an entrepreneur and haven’t started yet…this video is for you.

If you already have your own business and your fear keeps you from taking it to the next level…this video is for you.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiphani

I was in my early twenties and ready to make a MAJOR life move.

One of those monumental decisions that meant the success (or demise) of my future (yes…it was THAT serious). Although it was a big step, I felt confident with my plans even though I was ONLY moving off of faith.

But as sure as I was, I wasn’t sure enough, so I called a few people whose advice I respected and asked them for theirs.

And they gave it to me.

I listened intently as their words of doubt, cynicism, fear, unbelief, and insecurity (mixed with good intentions) seeped under my skin and floated through my mind, making me second guess everything I was once so sure of.

And then “they” said it. All of them. They uttered the words that snapped me back into reality:

“But what will everyone think?”

Those were the words I needed to hear.

Those were the words that reminded me that…

I REALLY DIDN’T GIVE A F@#$ ABOUT WHAT ANYONE ELSE THOUGHT! 

In my earlier days I wasn’t a big fan of people because their opinions (no matter how insignificant) ALWAYS seemed to affect me in some way, even stunting my growth.

Because what they thought of me mattered.

More than what I thought of myself.

Do you find yourself questioning every move you make in life, fearing that you’ll get criticized and ridiculed in the event that you fail? Do you hold back on “crazy ideas” and “unrealistic dreams” for fear that you’ll be laughed at for even thinking up something so innovative and big?

The truth is that you’re going to be laughed and pointed at, talked about, and judged by a pack of insecure people anyway.

When I decided to have my daughter and became a teenage mom…they judged me.

When I decided to quit college and pursue my writing career (passing on becoming a nurse or a teacher)…they criticized me.

I spent a lot of time trying to figure out where all the hate was coming from and I soon realized that some people were threatened by my potential. They wanted me to get a “real job” so that the success of my dreams turned to reality wouldn’t slap them in the face with the truth:

That their life SUCKED.

That they were doomed to a life of mediocrity.

That they weren’t cool enough to MAKE anything different happen in their own lives (thus being stuck with themselves FOREVER).

So I stopped asking people what they thought and put them in their place if they offered unsolicited advice, because I made the DECISION to just do me, no matter how anyone else felt!

Are you curious about how to REALLY not give a F@#$ about what anyone thinks about you? I have five tips that’ll get you going in the right direction:

#1 Know when you’re right. Release the urge to prove it
Let go of the fantasy of getting approval from your family and/or friends.
Let go of the urge to make them understand your vision because if it’s big enough and worth anything, they won’t understand it anyway. They’re going to talk about you behind your back and on social networking sites, but who cares? If you’re going to let that stop you, just quit while you’re ahead because it seems as though you ain’t really #BoutThisLife

#2 Stop asking for everyone’s opinion, especially when they’re as stupid as you
You are the sum total of the people you hang out with, which means that your current crew hasn’t elevated their mind set to where you are. Their thinking is small and not equipped to help you. Their opinion…is a NM Factor!

#3 Don’t take anything personally
WHEN (not “if,” cause it’s inevitable) someone says something on Facebook and/or Twitter (that they CLEARLY won’t say to your face), don’t get mad! What they say IS NOT about you. It’s an inner struggle regarding how they feel about themselves. Never respond to it.
Pray for them and then let them dig their own grave of low self esteem while you GO HARDER in whatever it is that pissed them off enough that they had to take time out of their VERY busy lives to comment on little ol’ you.

#4 Mediocrity is attainable. Strive for unrealistic
To be in the business of not giving a F@#$, you have to grow thick skin. Why? Because if you haven’t built up your confidence muscle, people’s words and opinions about you will rip you apart. One way to build that muscle is to strive for unrealistic goals. I’m talking about dreams so big that you’ll be outside of your comfort zone and guaranteed to be laughed at. Believe me, the mere fact that you coughed up enough balls to make your life a success will only make them wallow in their own self pity with the fact that they couldn’t grow a pair.

#5 Average people love being average because no one bothers them
Really, need I say anymore?

You can’t care about the opinions of others enough to ask if your dreams are a good idea, because they are.

And they will never think so.

Trust your gut and do what you want to do because your mind is at peace and your heart knows that it’s right. And if all else fails just remember:

They talked about Jesus and he CLEARLY could’ve cared LESS.

Because I want you believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiph

And as always, I’d LOVE to know what you think. Leave a comment below.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” -Jim Rohn

Have you ever found yourself trying to hold on to a friendship that was only meant to be for a season? Is there a nagging feeling that the friend you’re trying to DRAG along into the new vision in YOUR life is meant to be left behind? Friends are the glue that hold everything together, but what if superglue couldn’t even make you stick?

Today is the day that you’re going to get rid of some dead weight in your life.

Yup, that’s right.

Today you’re going to break up with the people in your life that don’t align with your new vision.

You become the friends that you hang out with and the odds are that they’ll suck you into their mediocre lifestyle before you’re able to change them. So start surrounding yourself with positive successful people who uplift, encourage, and applaud you for going after your dreams and obtaining some victories!!!

The fact is, if you’re not growing together, you’re growing apart. Most friendships aren’t meant to last forever and this video is confirmation for what you already know.

That it’s time to let go.

Not sure who you need to cut loose? Make a list of the people your closest to. Put a minus sign next to the negative and toxic people that make you feel bad, drain you, and lead to stress/drama and put a positive sign next to people who are loyal, honest, supportive, make you feel energized and at peace.

Break up with the minuses TODAY! Release yourself from their negative influences.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiphani + Baby Bear

Psssst!……Leave a comment below + share this video…..xo.

Please excuse my excessive use of the word RETARD ahead of time.

It just happens to be the only word I could think of at this particular moment to call everyone who fit the description of this post.

#JustSayin

This particular post is for my ladies.

Guys, I’m not too much concerned with you because (#$%@$%%&^%^%%##$@@!#@!##) …I’m just not…

Sooo, I was in the mall this past weekend and it was like super crazy packed (and I couldn’t figure out why because it’s not Christmas or anything) and someone brought to my attention that it was tax return season. #spiritFINGERS for all who “Came Up!”

I was SO befuddled because I couldn’t figure out for the life of me why everyone was in the mall spending all of their return money on clothes that they couldn’t otherwise afford. If memory serves me correctly…most people are in debt and I just find it so retarded that most were applying their money to things that DON’T matter.

It’s just that it’s 2010 and I want all the women out there to step their game up. If you haven’t spent your tax return money by now *side eye* why not wise up and apply it to your debt? Why not make your goal for this year to be DEBT FREE?

A lot of you are slaving at 9-5 gigs that you absolutely HATE and would rather quit to start your own business. Most of you have GREAT ideas that you can’t afford to finance because you have bad credit and the banks won’t give you loans and people don’t want to lend you any money because you NEVER pay back.

Why not cancel your debt and aim for an impressive FICO score (believe me, a good FICO score makes EVEN YOU a little prettier).

It may mean that you can’t go out and shop or do the things that you want for a little bit, but it’s a simple character trait called discipline. Sometimes you have to sacrifice the things that you want to do now for what you want to do in the future.

Let’s just stop being so freaking retarded all the time-smh

Aren’t you tired of never having enough money to do EVERYTHING that you want to do?

Aren’t you tired of being in bondage to the people you owe money to?

Aren’t you simply tired of living in LACK?

I’m not sure about you, but I want a husband that has enough money to provide for my daughter and I and any other children we decide to have (and I seriously doubt the “ANY MORE kids” part will actually happen), but I also know that I’m going to be able to bring a good financial portfolio to the table as well (because ONLY chicken heads think they don’t have to).

So when I get married, my hubby won’t have to worry about me being in debt. I’m going to be in a healthy relationship with my finances and even though he’s going to be making more money than me #bILLionaireStatues *wink wink* I’ll still be able to bring something to the table.

So ladies, let’s get our money in order.

Please stop spending it on stupid crap.

Just STOP being so retarded *bangs head on brick wall*

A lot of you are living a façade…dressed in Gucci, Louis Vuitton, Christian Louboutin *drools*(my faV) and you simply can’t afford that lifestyle. Driving cars that you can’t afford to drive in…are you serious??? Are you really going to be that dumb…FOREVER?

Side Note: If you couldn’t tell by now, this pisses me off! I mean REALLY pisses me OFF!!! I’m just tired of seeing people struggling when they don’t have to. This lifestyle is a choice that you choose to take part in because you don’t believe you deserve better.

Another Side Note: Our mind sets are too small. We’ve become use to smallness. It is ABNORMAL to accept lack and poverty. It is NOT the will of God.

CIAA is coming up in a few days (and for those of you who don’t know what that is, it’s a huge college basketball tournament in Charlotte, NC) and I have caught wind that, in a sad attempt to look “fly,” most people have already spent their tax return money on this weekend ALREADY!!!

If you’re one of these people…you’re sailing down the river of retarded brokeness with the rest of the world.

If you can’t afford to go…just don’t go!

Like really? Are you seriously going to spend your money just for one weekend only to be broke after? Just to make an impression on some people that don’t even matter?

Maybe it’s just me.

Maybe I’m the only person in the whole wide world that thinks it’s the most retarded thing to do, so I’m sorry for this rANT, but this public service announcement was needed because I just want my women to do better!

Everyone who knows me knows that I’m a HUGE advocate on personal development and self improvement and I just want everyone to SUCCEED! Because if you knew how powerful you really were…what kind of inheritance God has promised to you, you wouldn’t dare get caught up with a house full of bills.

You’d have a file cabinet full of TITLES AND DEEDS.

#JustSAYIN

Step your game up!

Tiph-xoxo