If you think your boyfriend is cheating on you, he probably is.

I have no advice on how to make him stop.

Cause he won’t.

And deep down inside, you already know this.

Your cries for him to be faithful will fall on deaf ears and your complaints and constant demands for him to stop will be ignored. At this very moment, you have two very simple choices:

To leave.

Or to stay.

Both are just as simple as they sound and not as complicated as most make them out to be.

Leave.

Or Stay.

The choice is yours and you will most likely make the wrong one (it just is what it is.) #kanyeshrugs…but this post isn’t about the WRONG decision you’re going to make in regards to leaving or staying with the said “cheater.” This post is what NOT to do when you find the number of the woman he left you for.

#1

DON’T CALL HER

Side Note: I hope that you didn’t go through his phone to find the number in the first place. The very moment that you felt the “urge” to do that, your “relationship” was over.

Another Side Note: Boyfriend + No Peace of Mind = TORTURE

But what I know for sure is that you are not suppose to be calling the “other woman” DEMANDING that she stop ALL communication with “your” boo and all because YOU said so! #blankstare

Because YOU saying so doesn’t scare her and because she most likely NEVER knew YOU even existed.

And because “your boo” is the one that YOU have beef with, not her.

And because…well…that just makes YOU a LAME (and I call you a LAME with the best of intentions because, well, I’m just trying to help).

#2

IF YOU’RE NOT GOING TO FOLLOW STEP #1…AT LEAST DON’T CALL HER PRIVATE AND “GO OFF!”

Side Note: Ok, so believe it or not, I’m not allll the way against calling the alleged “other woman” to find out what’s going on.

Thinking a little harder: Ok…maybe I am.

But if you are going to disobey my orders and call her (or him…never know nowadays *side eye*) anyway, don’t hide yourself behind the safety of a private call and threaten her via cell phone.

She’s not your enemy.

And you playing on her phone is kinda wack (like, go play in the highway with a blind fold on, wack).

Side Note: What’s worse than a cheating boyfriend is a stalker girlfriend who has become obsessed with his new love interest so much that she won’t leave her alone.

Another Side Note: Some girlfriends become seriously obsessed…like, single white female obsessed, with “the other woman.” DON’T. LET. THAT. BE. YOU. (Because you’re too pretty for that *closes eyes to wish for the best*)

#3

AFTER YOU’VE MADE A SERIES OF SAD ATTEMPTS TO SCARE HER INTO LEAVING “YOUR BOYFRIEND” ALONE, ONLY TO REALIZE THAT IT’S NOT GOING TO WORK, DON’T CALL HER PHONE 50 TIMES IN A ROW AND JUST NOT SAY ANYTHING!

Side Note: If I wasn’t working on becoming a better Christian, I would insert a bad word rigggghhhhhtttt (here) and (here) for this type of young lady. But the Jesus in me won’t. let. me. do. it. *sighs*…thank God for change!

Do you just want to hear her voice on the other end of the phone to try and figure out what he sees in her? Or does misery love company and you want her to be as aggravated as you are with your current circumstances? Either way, your sanity is s…..l…..o……w……l………….y  melting away and you are (indeed) playing yourself. Sometimes what seems like the right thing to do, isn’t.

Don’t call that woman’s phone anymore.

She doesn’t owe you an explanation.

She never has.

He owes it to you.

And if you still have no peace after he lays it on thick…move on.

Because clearly, he already has.

Until Jesus comes (and from what I hear, He will be here shortly),

Tiph