MY EX

It was time to move on. After years of negotiating and compromising, I finally left. Gave no explanation. No goodbye. Just left. Changed my phone number and moved on. I realized I didn’t need the closure that I thought was necessary for my healing and it was the best decision I ever made.

CHEATERS

I think that all men cheat.

Ok, maybe not ALL men, but I’m a firm believer that if your man isn’t faithful to God, HE WILL NOT BE FAITHFUL TO YOU.

You can’t expect a man who has yet to ask you to be his wife (and actually go through with it) to be faithful. He’s still single and the fact that your last names are NOT the same proves it. If he cheated once, he’ll do it again.

And again.

And again.

And again.

Commitment and faithfulness are rare in this day and age, but is compromising just to have a man worth your sanity?

THE OTHER WOMAN

Seriously, are we still on this?

Ok, let me be the first to admit that when I was younger, EVERYTHING was the other woman’s fault, but with age comes wisdom (well, at least in my case it did) and I learned that you only attack her because of you’re own insecurities and fears.

To all of you who have a “boyfriend” let me help you out:

SHE IS NOT THE PROBLEM!!

He’s the one who betrayed your trust.

He owes you the explanation.

THE OTHER WOMAN’S EXSISTENCE IS HIS FAULT.

HEALING A BROKEN HEART

Cry.

Until it’s over.

Until your eyes can produce no more tears.

Give yourself time to grieve the loss, but then move on. Quickly. And love again. Like it’s the first time.

DATING

Be a lady.

NEVER pay.

Lose your independence for just a second and enjoy being wined and dined.

Side Note: DON’T HAVE SEX WITH HIM. Because it probably won’t last long. And when that happens, you’ll be able to move on to the next one with ease. Because you won’t be left with the sad fact that you tried to keep him with your pussy.

LOVE

If only for a moment, enjoy it.

Every last second.

I LOVE feeling like this. It’s just the best feeling in the world!

MARRIAGE

Don’t play wife without the ring.

FRIENDSHIP

Some aren’t worth keeping, but if you have the BFFs that I have, you’d do EVERYTHING in your power to keep them in your life. Mine keep me sane and grounded. They are honest when I rather them not be and they love me #flawsANDall

SINGLE PARENTING

Sweet Baby Jesus, take the wheel! #nuffSAID

CHILD SUPPORT

$50 a week?

Fifty.

Dollars.

A week?

SWEET BABY JESUS, TAKE THE CAR!!!

FORGIVENESS

Holding on to hurt, whether past or present causes sickness (cancer, heart disease, etc.) Set your will to forgive people before they even do anything wrong because what they did (or WILL do) to hurt you isn’t worth your health.

Let it go.

All of it.

Now.

CAREER

I’m writing as many books as my fingers can type, producing my first documentary, and a few other projects that I’m keeping TOP SECRET for now. I’m building an empire (and its gonna WIN WIN WIN NO MATTER WHAT)!!!

PROCRASTINATION

I was supposed to start this blog last year.

Schedule this post for this morning.

Start on my new book….*hangs head low*

BIBLE

It’s not an anthology that a group of old men got together to write one day. Its 66 books of seed that is to be planted in your life, watered, and nurtured.

For example:

If you’re having lack in your life, find the scripture that pertains to prosperity and confess them out loud over your life.

***Genesis 39:1-6, 21 Like Joseph, I prosper wherever I go and in every situation I’m in because the Lord is always with me. I too experience preferential treatment.

***Luke 1:28 I am blessed and highly favored.

***Deu.7:15; Psalm 5: 12 Because the favor of God shields me, no sickness or disease has a right to live in my body.

***Deut. 8:18, Psalm 112:3 Wealth and riches are in my house because I am empowered with His anointing and favor to draw wealth.

GOD

Most days I don’t deserve His grace and mercy. Just glad that He doesn’t feel the same.

GIVING

It’s an art that I have yet to master. But this year I have made it a priority to be a giver. I’m thinkin it’ll up my Jesus points and I need as many of those as I can get!

Believe + Conquer,

Tiph

If you think your boyfriend is cheating on you, he probably is.

I have no advice on how to make him stop.

Cause he won’t.

And deep down inside, you already know this.

Your cries for him to be faithful will fall on deaf ears and your complaints and constant demands for him to stop will be ignored. At this very moment, you have two very simple choices:

To leave.

Or to stay.

Both are just as simple as they sound and not as complicated as most make them out to be.

Leave.

Or Stay.

The choice is yours and you will most likely make the wrong one (it just is what it is.) #kanyeshrugs…but this post isn’t about the WRONG decision you’re going to make in regards to leaving or staying with the said “cheater.” This post is what NOT to do when you find the number of the woman he left you for.

#1

DON’T CALL HER

Side Note: I hope that you didn’t go through his phone to find the number in the first place. The very moment that you felt the “urge” to do that, your “relationship” was over.

Another Side Note: Boyfriend + No Peace of Mind = TORTURE

But what I know for sure is that you are not suppose to be calling the “other woman” DEMANDING that she stop ALL communication with “your” boo and all because YOU said so! #blankstare

Because YOU saying so doesn’t scare her and because she most likely NEVER knew YOU even existed.

And because “your boo” is the one that YOU have beef with, not her.

And because…well…that just makes YOU a LAME (and I call you a LAME with the best of intentions because, well, I’m just trying to help).

#2

IF YOU’RE NOT GOING TO FOLLOW STEP #1…AT LEAST DON’T CALL HER PRIVATE AND “GO OFF!”

Side Note: Ok, so believe it or not, I’m not allll the way against calling the alleged “other woman” to find out what’s going on.

Thinking a little harder: Ok…maybe I am.

But if you are going to disobey my orders and call her (or him…never know nowadays *side eye*) anyway, don’t hide yourself behind the safety of a private call and threaten her via cell phone.

She’s not your enemy.

And you playing on her phone is kinda wack (like, go play in the highway with a blind fold on, wack).

Side Note: What’s worse than a cheating boyfriend is a stalker girlfriend who has become obsessed with his new love interest so much that she won’t leave her alone.

Another Side Note: Some girlfriends become seriously obsessed…like, single white female obsessed, with “the other woman.” DON’T. LET. THAT. BE. YOU. (Because you’re too pretty for that *closes eyes to wish for the best*)

#3

AFTER YOU’VE MADE A SERIES OF SAD ATTEMPTS TO SCARE HER INTO LEAVING “YOUR BOYFRIEND” ALONE, ONLY TO REALIZE THAT IT’S NOT GOING TO WORK, DON’T CALL HER PHONE 50 TIMES IN A ROW AND JUST NOT SAY ANYTHING!

Side Note: If I wasn’t working on becoming a better Christian, I would insert a bad word rigggghhhhhtttt (here) and (here) for this type of young lady. But the Jesus in me won’t. let. me. do. it. *sighs*…thank God for change!

Do you just want to hear her voice on the other end of the phone to try and figure out what he sees in her? Or does misery love company and you want her to be as aggravated as you are with your current circumstances? Either way, your sanity is s…..l…..o……w……l………….y  melting away and you are (indeed) playing yourself. Sometimes what seems like the right thing to do, isn’t.

Don’t call that woman’s phone anymore.

She doesn’t owe you an explanation.

She never has.

He owes it to you.

And if you still have no peace after he lays it on thick…move on.

Because clearly, he already has.

Until Jesus comes (and from what I hear, He will be here shortly),

Tiph