Let’s face it.

We all make bad decisions in our relationships and a lot of the time they’re not that big of a deal, but what about the ones that are? What about those bad decisions which leave you feeling heavy, depressed, resentful, or bitter towards yourself and others?

If any of this sounds all too familiar, then sign up for my FREE CALL with life and relationship coach, Tony Gaskins Jr.
 
 
 

The Ultimate Guide on How to Become Mrs. Right!
Tiphani Montgomery + Tony Gaskins Jr
Wednesday, May 23, 2012 @ 9pm EST
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Are you fearful that the next decision you make in your relationship will be the wrong one (like all the others)? If so, you’re going to have to break your patterns and make the decision to change the only person you truly have control over. You. Because you can not afford to waste another second of your life staying exactly how you are.  
 

In this call, Tony tackles:

• Why men cheat (and it’s not why you think)
• The #1 reason women will NEVER find the man of their dreams (and how not to be “that woman”)
• How to apply the “You don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate,” principle to your relationships
• A live q + a session
• And a whooooole lot more!  
 

About Tony Gaskins Jr.

Tony Gaskins is one of the leading relationship coaches in the country. After stumbling aimlessly through toxic relationships Tony came out on the other end a much better man. He is a faithful husband, dedicated father, author, certified life & relationship coach.  

Tony has been a guest on Oprah Winfrey, Tyra Banks, 700 Club and several other media outlets sharing his story of overcoming life’s obstacles and turning his mistakes into lessons.  

Today Tony has coached over 200 celebrities, authored 5 self-help books, and is one of the most sought after speakers in the country.    
 
This event is FREE, but space is limited. Enter your email below to be a part of the live call or to have the MP3 recording emailed to you if you can’t make it.

Tony’s laser sharp advice on how to fix your horrible relationships can be found on Twitter + Facebook. His new book, Mrs. Right: A Woman’s Guide to Becoming and Remaining a Wife, has close to 100 reviews. All 5 stars. Because it’s THAT good. Click here to buy it. And be sure to visit his website for upcoming events and seminars.

I looked down.

Five hundred feet in the air didn’t look so fun now that I was up here.

Strapped up.

Ready to jump.

I had talked my mother into letting me go bungee jumping because it looked like a lot of fun while on the secure footing of the ground and now I had changed my mind. I was suddenly glad that my bungee cord was attached to my waist because had they have been tying people up by the ankles, I would have never considered.

But I still didn’t feel safe and instantly wanted off this ride.

Me: Hey, let me down!

Bungee Guru: No!

Me: Ex-cu-se you (said with A LOT of attitude)!!!

Bungee Guru: Come on (he said, as if it were routine). This really is a lot of fun. It’s not scary at all. Look, if the girl in front of you can do it…so can you!

It was peer pressure at it’s finest and it had worked.

The girl ahead of me was my height. Size. And shape. I couldn’t let her beat me, despite the fact that we weren’t even playing a game. I had made up my mind, that I was all in, but only if she was!

While I waited for “the competition” to hurl her body off of the ledge into the dark sky (yes, it was night time, go figure), I closed my eyes and said a, “Jesus don’t let me die!” prayer and just as I opened my eyes back up…she was gone.

Me: (Looking down. Seeing nothing) She jumped already? That quick? She didn’t scream, or…”

Bungee Guru: No. She quit. Gave up. Wanted out. (he paused. Then scooted me forward) Now, it’s your turn.

I turned pale.

Took both hands and held on tightly to the poles and refused to let go.

I had made up my mind. Since “the competition” didn’t jump, neither would I.

Bungee Guru: Look (he said sensing my resistance and realizing that he was going to lose another sale). You won’t regret doing this. Nothing is going to happen to you and there’s a huge inflated cushion to catch you just in case.

I looked down.

Saw the cushion from afar. It made me feel safer. Sort of.

He continued. “I’ll count to three and slightly push you off, ok?”

I nodded my head in agreement.

Because deep down inside I really wanted to go. Just didn’t have the guts to do it on my own.

One.

Two.

And then he shoved me off the ledge. Totally skipping the number three.

WTF happened to the number three???

 
The air hit my face as I headed towards the ground. My scream was startling. Horrifying. My past flashed before my eyes. This was “it.” I was sure.

And just as I was about to make my peace with God, the cord jolted me back up. There it was. The bounce I’d been waiting for. The bounce that let me know that I was still alive. The bounce that allowed me to enjoy how much fun this really was. The bounce that took away all of my regret.

I was happy that I decided to “jump.”

Despite the fact that “the competition” didn’t.
 

My question to you is:

 
What in your life have you refused to try because of your fear of not knowing what the outcome would be? What stranger have you unconsciously competed with in this game called life and based your level of success on what their next move was going to be?

What’s my point?

 
STOP competing with other people.

She was never going to jump. Her heart wouldn’t let her.

But I was built differently.

And would’ve never gained that awesome experience had I of followed in her footsteps.

Watch whose footsteps you follow!

And while we’re talking footsteps…

 

MEET MARIE FORLEO

My friend Marie is the reason I got into online entrepreneurship and make money doing what I’m absolutely INSANELY passionate about!

She’s built an empire, one that allows her to travel, give back and make money. She’s been interviewed by Tony Robbins, gone on holiday with Richard Branson and she’s helped thousands of women create businesses resonated with their mission of making money and doing good.

Marie knows her stuff and she’s sharing it!

In this video, Marie is sharing what it really takes to start and grow your business online. We all know there’s a lot of confusing information out there, but this video breaks it down into simple, do-able steps that you can use RIGHT NOW!

In this video you’ll learn:

::Why women, in particular, are wired to succeed in the digital era (men, don’t think this lets you off the hook, there are lessons here for you too)

::The shocking changes that’ll take place online in the next few years (if you have an online presence, you need to know this!)

::Marie’s step-by-step 6 Pillar roadmap to online success with a PDF worksheet included

Marie is offering this video 100% FREE, so click here to go now and check it out!

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xx

Tiph

P.S. If you’re at all interested in video marketing, you have to see what Marie does in these videos. She’s just raised the bar for our entire industry – worth it to take a look for this reason alone.

I waited for his finger to pull the trigger.

I waited to watch the bullet exit the barrel in slow motion, hit the target’s face, and leaving the bits and pieces of brain splattered all over mine.

Like pulp fiction. But 3D.

My mind raced forward to my reaction after this shooting would happen. I’ve always been a forward thinker like that.

Would I scream? Probably not.

Go into shock? Nah.

Pee on myself? Nope.

I simply concluded that I would do…nothing. Nothing at all.

Just a few moments before, a gun man (who’ll we’ll call “Gun Guy”) raced out of his car to confront a man who was buying a few books from me (with whom we’ll call the “Victim”).

“Gun Guy” wore one black leather glove on the hand that would pull the trigger. It was ninety-two degrees outside.

This, I concluded, could only mean trouble.

It was summertime. The block was hot. And full of people who had run far away enough to not get hit with a bullet, but close enough to watch the whole thing.

Scared, but nosey.

What a horrible combination.

It was just me, “Gun Guy,” and the “Victim.” In front of my book table. Waiting.

I couldn’t move.

Couldn’t run for cover like the others. I was too scared and nosey to do anything.

What a horrible combination.

I watched as “Gun Guy” quietly told the “Victim” why he was there. With the gun in his face. Ready for war.

While the “Victim” tried to plead his case, the ”Gun Guy” dug deep in his soul for the biggest piece of spit he could find and hauled it straight into the face of the “Victim.”

The monstrous piece of spit dangled on the “Victim’s” lip and held on for dear life. Mimicking his manhood.

Too afraid to wipe it away, the “Victim” looked at me and then held his head down, confirming what I knew all along: that if he made it out of here alive, he couldn’t come back to the hood ever again.

Satisfied with murdering “Victims” pride, the ”Gun Guy” said his final remarks and walked back to his car and drove away.

Ten minutes didn’t go by for things to go back to normal and I was back to selling my books.

My mind darted back to the week before when they found my homeless friend who used to insist on acting as my security, murdered just a few feet away from where I sold my books at.

Though things got crazy around there once and a while, I never considered selling my books anywhere else. This was easy money. I had hit jack pot.

Just when I thought my amusement for the day had ended, “Gun Guy” returned, riding down the street. In slow motion. With the gloved hand hanging out the window. With the gun in hand. Amusing himself. And scaring the shit out of us.

Everyone, including some new customers I had, ran for cover.

He did this imaginary drive by for a while. Six times to be exact. And I had simply had enough.

When I wake up everyday, I have a goal and back then it was to bring home two hundred dollars a day in book sales.

The ”Gun Guy” was messing up my money. The Carolina heat had me melting away. And I was pissed.

As he coasted at a speed of five miles per hour, taunting the crowd again with his intimidation tactics, I politely jogged to the car, cleared my throat and said, “Do you mind? I’m trying to sell books here and you’re scaring the shit out of my customers, so can you find and kill the “Victim” on another day please?”

He laughed.

Pulled his arm back in the car. Took off his glove. Reached in his pocket and handed me five one hundred dollar bills.

“My bad shawty,” was all he said as he drove off.

We never saw him again. That day.

BUT TIPH, WHAT’S THE POINT?

Well, other than the fact that it was funny to relive, the lesson is simple:

Ask for what you want.

History has proved time and time again that people have received opportunities and riches, simply by asking for them, but asking (which is a VERY powerful tool for success) is something that most people are afraid to do.

If you’re a person who avoids asking for what you want (or need) because you don’t want to look like you need the help, don’t want to look stupid, or you don’t want to be…REJECTED I have a couple tips for you.

Tiph Tip #1- Don’t assume that you’re going to get a no. Ask as if you expect a yes.
There were over sixty people, mostly men, standing outside that day and it took me, a one hundred and fifteen pound girl to make the man with the gun go away AND I received a five hundred dollar bonus for my pain and suffering. I took a risk and in that brief second, visualized getting exactly what I wanted. My peace of mind back.

Tiph Tip #2- Don’t give up.
Be persistant. There will be times when you’ll be rejected and it’ll hurt like hell, but never give up. Asking for what you want is really just a numbers game.

Is there something in your life that seems so impossible that you think you need to do more than just ask…think again. Whether you’re looking for a raise, a better relationship, new clients, a job, a vacation, help with the kids, etc. JUST ASK!

TAKE ACTION NOW

This week I want you to ask three questions to the people who have the ability to make it happen. This means if you have a problem with your boyfriend, you’re going to ask the boyfriend for a resolution. Not your friends.

Same for your business. If you want more clients, you’re going to send emails out this week asking your old clients for referrals.

Ask for what you want BOLDLY or spend the rest of your life running in fear.

The choice to live a better life has always been yours.

Choose wisely.

I’D LIKE TO INVITE YOU TO WORK WITH ME 1-ON-1

I LOVE working with people one-on-one. I LOVE building their
businesses, showing them the way + watching their AHA! moment the
first time they see their money rolling in!

Teaching small businesses how to build revenue online is a
passion of mine. Whether it’s helping an author/self-publisher
build a literary empire or helping a new entrepreneur create a
completely virtual business from scratch…the fun for me is
helping you build a creative business that you’re TOTALLY
passionate about (+ is TOTALLY profitable too)!

That’s why I’m currently opening up 24 one-on-one GET UP & GO
HARDER sessions with me. I have a lot under my belt at the moment
(a new novel hitting bookstores + iPads in September 2012 + my 30
day self-publishing digital boot camp that starts in June 2012)…so
once these one-on-one spots are gone, THEY’RE GONE!

If you have a gut feeling that I can help you create a business
like mine- a business that earns great income + that feels like a
hobby + you just need a place where someone will call your bluff and
kick your butt LIKE IT’S THEIR JOB- then email me at: tiphani@tiphanimontgomery.com for more info.

I’ll respond right away with all the details about being one of the
24 to work with me one-on-one.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

Xx

Tiph

Let’s talk about fear.

The fear of not being able to make ends meet. The fear of never finding “Mr. Right” and experiencing the relationship you’ve always wanted. The fear of working a “real job” for the rest of your life and dying with your dreams still inside of you.

The fear of letting your past hurts take over your future successes.

The paralyzing fear of…failing.

If any of these fears have your name written all over them, then sign up for my FREE tele-seminar with relationship guru and life coach, Demetria Lucas.

Title: Advice on Living Your Best Single Life
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As the go-to girl for relationship and dating advice, this real life Carrie Bradshaw and editor at Essence magazine shares the what-to-dos and what-not-to-dos for fabulous single living.

If your life is headed in the wrong direction and the #1 question you ask yourself is, “What if it NEVER get’s better?” then this is a call you don’t want to miss!

ABOUT DEMETRIA LUCAS:
With an award-winning popular blog and an Essence magazine platform, Demetria Lucas has become a relationship guru to millions of young women with plenty of simple, direct advice. According to Lucas, most women are too focused (and stressed) on the difficulties of meeting Mr. Right to enjoy the experience.

Her new book,A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life, celebrates the joys of singlehood, encourages personal development, and offers tools to help women increase their odds of finding a suitable mate when they are ready for one.

With advice garnered from personal revelations, expert interviews with other relationship and dating gurus, and hundreds of interviews with her Male MindSquad—a committee of thirty men from varying backgrounds who answers the tough questions about sex, dating, and relationships—Lucas helps women enjoy the single life…with or without the perfect guy.

This event is FREE, but space is limited. Enter your email below to save a spot!
You can catch Demetria dishing out hardcore no bs relationship advice on Formspring. She’s quite amusing on Twitter and her blog, A Belle In Brooklyn, is where it all started.

Take a moment and think about how you want to feel in your personal and business life. Today’s video is going to teach you how to get clear on your desired feelings and how to be happy!

Write down your desired feelings and list 3 things that you’ll do this week to feel that way.

P.S. I got this technique from a GREAT digital program for entrepreneurs called, The Spark Kit, by Danielle Laporte.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiphani

Have you always wanted to start a business, but can’t quite figure out what you want to do? In today’s video, I’m going to share 3 creative ways to come up with an idea so that you can get started!

If you found this video useful, please share it with someone who would LOVE to start their own business!

P.S. I got this technique from a GREAT digital program for entrepreneurs called, The Spark Kit, by Danielle Laporte.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiphani

I wanted it bad enough to quit college and become a student in the school of the hard knocks, graduating at the top of my class.

I wanted it bad enough to sell my poetry book titled, Hate Me Bitch!, from behind a bar where I hustled tips and mixed drinks.

I wanted it bad enough to sell my fiction books in 1,000 degree North Carolina heat to anyone that had eyeballs (and a twenty dollar bill).

I wanted it bad enough to break up with some friends (and even a few family members) who weighed me down with their disbelief and silent insecurities of being “left behind.”

I wanted it bad enough that I believed in myself by shining my own light as bright as I could on even the darkest days.

I wanted it bad enough to speak it before it ever existed.

I wanted it so bad that failure was not an option.

I wanted it bad enough that people conspired on my behalf to see that it was done. Because they believed in my vision just as hard as I did.

I wanted it so bad that I became my own cheerleader when the whole team picked up and left.

I wanted it bad enough to show my face to the world even when I’d been humiliated and betrayed. Because they couldn’t kill me. And I needed them to know that.

I wanted it bad enough to get back up again after I had fallen. And couldn’t get up.

I wanted it bad enough to pray. A million times a day. Even after I’d crept into the forbidden garden and eaten the apple.

I wanted it bad enough to forgive. And then let go.

My question to you is:

How bad do you want it?

Whenever a New Year pops up (often out of nowhere), do you wonder where the time went? Do you ever wonder why your past is so similar to your right now and why everything seems to be…the same?

Against your will.

Against your sanity.

Against your better judgement.

Have you ever yearned for life to give you a “do over” that you know could never quite be “done over?”

And then the New Year (with all its bullshit resolutions) comes to you in a vision, riding on a white horse with promises to save you from all the mistakes you made in your past.

The past you created.

The past that’s not likely to change unless you change your mindset.

 A mindset you’re most likely in denial about, leaving you in the horrible position of blaming everyone except for yourself for the untimely demise of your dreams.

SO TIPHANI, WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?

I’m all about defying the odds. Doing what “they” said couldn’t be done. Doing what “they” laughed at you for dreaming about. I’m all about doing what everyone else deemed impossible.

So, forget your resolutions.You kinda NEVER stick to them anyway and if you were REALLY serious about changing something important in your life, you’d start TODAY.

Forget waiting for the right time. Because the time to pursue your dreams will NEVER be right and procrastination is only a sign of how unworthy you believe you are.

Forget that lame bs excuse for not having enough money to start your business. Cause you somehow found a way to buy all the other POINTLESS items in Target that you thought you couldn’t afford. And yes…that crap adds up!

All those excuses boil down to the fact that you’re afraid.

It boils down to the fact that fear has wrapped her pretty little fingers around your neck and is squeezing the life out of you, but my question to you is…what are you afraid of?

What is it about your dream that scares you to the point of inaction?

Plenty of people aren’t going to like your stuff (i.e new business venture or change of any kind thats positive). Well, more than half won’t. They will always have something to say about you, but the fact is that you will never reach your level of awesomeness as long as you continue to ride the ‘I Give A Crap What Everyone Thinks Of Me” wave.

Listen, I can sit here and talk until I’m blue in the face, telling you how capable I think you are, how you have everything you need to start right now, or that you’re a genius, but until you believe those things yourself…you will always fail. Miserably.

So my advice to you is: Tell fear to f**k all the way off and show the world what you got…in that order.

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo

Tiph

I was in my early twenties and ready to make a MAJOR life move.

One of those monumental decisions that meant the success (or demise) of my future (yes…it was THAT serious). Although it was a big step, I felt confident with my plans even though I was ONLY moving off of faith.

But as sure as I was, I wasn’t sure enough, so I called a few people whose advice I respected and asked them for theirs.

And they gave it to me.

I listened intently as their words of doubt, cynicism, fear, unbelief, and insecurity (mixed with good intentions) seeped under my skin and floated through my mind, making me second guess everything I was once so sure of.

And then “they” said it. All of them. They uttered the words that snapped me back into reality:

“But what will everyone think?”

Those were the words I needed to hear.

Those were the words that reminded me that…

I REALLY DIDN’T CARE WHAT ANYONE ELSE THOUGHT! 

In my earlier days I wasn’t a big fan of people because their opinions (no matter how insignificant) ALWAYS seemed to affect me in some way, even stunting my growth.

Because what they thought of me mattered.

More than what I thought of myself.

Do you find yourself questioning every move you make in life, fearing that you’ll get criticized and ridiculed in the event that you fail? Do you hold back on “crazy ideas” and “unrealistic dreams” for fear that you’ll be laughed at for even thinking up something so innovative and big?

The truth is that you’re going to be laughed and pointed at, talked about, and judged by a pack of insecure people anyway.

When I decided to have my daughter and became a teenage mom…they judged me.

When I decided to quit college and pursue my writing career (passing on becoming a nurse or a teacher)…they criticized me.

I spent a lot of time trying to figure out where all the hate was coming from and I soon realized that some people were threatened by my potential. They wanted me to get a “real job” so that the success of my dreams turned to reality wouldn’t slap them in the face with the truth:

That their life SUCKED.

That they were doomed to a life of mediocrity.

That they weren’t cool enough to MAKE anything different happen in their own lives (thus being stuck with themselves FOREVER).

So I stopped asking people what they thought and put them in their place if they offered unsolicited advice, because I made the DECISION to just do me, no matter how anyone else felt!

Are you curious about how to REALLY not care about what anyone thinks about you? I have five tips that’ll get you going in the right direction:

#1 Know when you’re right. Release the urge to prove it
Let go of the fantasy of getting approval from your family and/or friends.
Let go of the urge to make them understand your vision because if it’s big enough and worth anything, they won’t understand it anyway. They’re going to talk about you behind your back and on social networking sites, but who cares? If you’re going to let that stop you, just quit while you’re ahead!

#2 Stop asking for everyone’s opinion, especially when they’re as stupid as you
You are the sum total of the people you hang out with, which means that your current crew hasn’t elevated their mind set to where you are. Their thinking is small and not equipped to help you. Their opinion doesn’t matter!

#3 Don’t take anything personally
WHEN (not “if,” cause it’s inevitable) someone says something about you, don’t get mad! What they say IS NOT about you. It’s an inner struggle regarding how they feel about themselves. Never respond to it.
Wish them well and then let them dig their own grave of low self esteem while you GO HARDER in whatever it is that pissed them off enough that they had to take time out of their VERY busy lives to comment on little ol’ you.

#4 Mediocrity is attainable. Strive for unrealistic
To be in the business of not caring, you have to grow thick skin. Why? Because if you haven’t built up your confidence muscle, people’s words and opinions about you will rip you apart. One way to build that muscle is to strive for unrealistic goals. I’m talking about dreams so big that you’ll be outside of your comfort zone and guaranteed to be laughed at. Believe me, the mere fact that you coughed up enough balls to make your life a success will only make them wallow in their own self pity with the fact that they couldn’t grow a pair.

#5 Average people love being average because no one bothers them
Really, need I say anymore?

You can’t care about the opinions of others enough to ask if your dreams are a good idea, because they are.

And they will never think so.

Trust your gut and do what you want to do because your mind is at peace and your heart knows that it’s right!

Because I want you believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiph

And as always, I’d LOVE to know what you think. Leave a comment below.

I have A. D. D. (Attention Deficit Disorder), graduated high school with a 1.7 gpa and spent a few years in college only to receive a 0.0 gpa on my transcript. The odds were against me from the very beginning and yet I managed to hit Essence Magazine best sellers list SEVEN times!

In this video, I’m going to answer some of the top questions I get asked as it relates to my journey from self-publishing my poetry to landing a publishing deal that got my books in bookstores nationwide.

If you have more questions that I didn’t answer, leave them in the comments below and as always, thanks for reading and watching:)

Because I want you to believe in yourself.
HARDER than you ever thought possible.

xo.

Tiphani